A Great Sadness....

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I just found out that an old friend of mine passed away.  He was very young...my age.  His mother found him in his room.  Its just so sad.  I mean, we were friends, we worked together and partied together.  I haven't seen him in several years.  I wish I had known that would be the last time....

On the heels of that news, I found out that another friend from that same period of my life is dying.  He had 5 toes removed (gang green) and had a stroke, his left arm is paralyzed. They wanted to do a liver transplant, but he's not a candidate, because his pancreas and kidneys are shutting down. The doctor's don't know how long he has.

I am absolutely gutted right now....

How do you tell people how much they meant to you when its too late?

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mate. it is never too late. thing is, once they pass, THEY will have no regrets, it's YOU. telling ppl how much they mean to us is, on the whole, a purely selfish thing because i think being loved is such a huge responsibility - people either respond to it, or it explodes in their faces.

they're probably aware that you wouldn't get honest with them in the same way if they WEREN'T dying, and depending on the person, your sentiments may come across as insincere or selfish. but just be honest about it & say that you always meant to tell them how much they meant to you, but thought you had forever. your friend is probably very close to reconciling that he is super ill and may not live for much longer - or he may not be. either way, the 'telling' is for YOU moreso than them.

i'm always going to have regrets that i put off visiting my mum in hospital that last time & will regret that i never got over that bitter, seething anger and resentment that kids are so good at harbouring towards their parents for various wrongdoings over the years. but i know my mum doesn't have the same regrets.

*hugs*